Perhaps you already hate living and ironically thought how bold your parents were to give birth to you without your consent — whether you wanted to live, and deal with your possible flaws, or die.
But now, that you are free to make your own decisions and able to consent, you now have the freedom to choose if you want to live in the same way embodied above: you'd instead love or still hate life. Yet, you never give yourself time to think or consider what you really want.
Or, you would change the whole perspective: regardless if you love or still hate life but now learning to speak up what your psyche really wants. Simply put, you know the right moment when to answer "yes" and "no" to others because you listen and take judgment from yourself first before anyone else. You then prioritize how you perceive certain decisions and actions first–and there’s nothing wrong with it.
If you are struggling say “no” to others, here are some things you should remember:
The first is that when people ask you, it means that they want you to decide on something. They’re requesting, and whatever your answer may become valid enough for them to continue or not.
Second, what you decide to offer is always enough.
Third, you are capable of changing. The crucial point to changing is knowing you need to change. You might not know how to say “no” now, but it does not mean you will never know how to stand for what you really want. You will learn how to answer "no" without feeling responsible for your own struggles. And your growth, someday, will be too much for people who once told you that you have nothing to offer. And without doubt, robbed your peace. That their disturbing actions won’t longer be tolerated.
Possibly just after the moment your mother gave birth to you, they told you, whilst mesmerized, you were perfect. But no, you are not.
You are beautifully flawed, wired for struggle but you are tough. You are worthy of love and care that must start with yourself.
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Written by: Christine Mae Anne Vallecera
Layout and Design by: Dan Kurt Buenaventura
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